Leaders Get Stuck!

Posted September 10, 2010 - By Carrie Kish | View Comments

So, here I sit… stuck! I put a note up on Facebook asking my friends (and fellow coaches) what they do when they are stuck. I got some great answers. Try some of these next time you’re stuck:

  • Go for a walk
  • Get outside
  • Call your coach
  • Go to the spa
  • Email your coach
  • Ask Facebook
  • Climb a tree
  • Coach
  • Make a metaphor for your stuck (mine is “Paralyzed by Perfection”)
  • Dance
  • Listen to music
  • Trust myself
  • Get into community
  • Talk with a friend
  • Call a friend
  • Detox in Nature
  • Roar!
  • Meet with a mentor
  • Go to the beach
  • Journal
  • Book a massage
  • Meditate
  • Do dishes or laundry (this is as close as I get to meditating)
  • Take a shower
  • Banana Split (not my weapon of choice, but I can appreciate it)
  • Chocolate

These are just some of the ideas that my genius friends and colleagues came up with. But, the best advice came from Master Coach, David Darst:
“There’s value in stuck, too. It’s not always a place to steer away from.”

Okay, this is the Yoda-ish wisdom you get when you work with a Master Coach. It can be frustrating and confusing, but it was exactly what I needed to hear to get to the next questions that I need to ask myself:

Instead of how do I get unstuck, I am now exploring:

  • What is the value of being stuck?
  • What is the payoff of being stuck?
  • What is being stuck like?
  • What are the lessons that I get from being stuck?

What I am realizing is that I’m not stuck so much as scared.  And, that I am “paralyzed by perfection.”  One of our Senior Leaders, Danielle White, recently reminded me that “perfection is over rated.”  I am so grateful to be surrounded by such a kick-ass tribe!

And, ironically, now that I’ve completely embraced being stuck, I feel inspired to take action.  When I’m ready to get unstuck, I …

  • Do ONE thing – just commit to one small action.
  • Take a big, bold action.
  • Make a menu of options of all the things I possibly could do to get unstuck and then I commit to three of them.

What do you ask?  What are you learning?  What do you do?

Published under : Leadership | Tagged with : , , , , , ,
  • Karen Pery

    I love the learning and community that has emerged through your inquiry. As a recovering perfectionist, I stick with “practice, not perfection.”

    (And also, I tend to agree with most things David says. )

blog comments powered by Disqus
661-255-2100 info@leadershiplabinc.com

What Kind of Leader are You?

Are you a Sovereign Leader, a Charismatic Leader, a Collaborative Leader or a Rational Leader?

See what kind of leader you are!

Take the Personal Leadership Style Assessment NOW!